Greta’s Secret “Sexy Six” – Six Things to Get in the Mood!
It’s everywhere. The Kardashians have KASHed in with sex tapes and butt-baring clothes. Victoria’s Secret Angels prance down runways wearing that company’s version of what makes you sexy. Online dating promises quick hookups as much as forever romance because they know that SEX is on many minds.
Feeling hot to trot (old school expression that still says it all, don’t you think?) doesn’t always come easy. For that matter, neither do some women, if we’re keeping it racy and real.
Sex can be a blessing or a curse, depending on your state of mind, hormonal health, age and too many other factors.
Which is why I’ve distilled down SIX SEXY SECRETS that might, just might, make you feel more frisky than normal and may, just may, make you more apt to be in the mood, rather than begging off due to imaginary headaches.
Secret 1 – Music and Your Mood
Imagine this: You’ve been listening to Gangsta Rap all day long. You’re feelin’ all edgy and nasty and ready to kick ass and take names. Your love approaches you and he (or she) us feeing all warm and fuzzy, “Feel like some taking a warm bubble bath with champagne, baby” he or she says to you, all glow-y and sweet.
“Hell no, Mutha, git your sorry ass out my way and now!” you reply without missing a beat, channeling your inner thug.
Forget the dozen dirty diapers you’ve changed in the past day or so, or the fight you had with your boss earlier that day, if you’ve been listening to music that puts you in a combative mood, you will NOT wanna get it on with anyone other than Attila the Hun.
Music is so evocative that there are movements around its use in healing and recovery.
Alzheimer’s patients who are given access to the tunes they listened to as young adults will literally come to life and blossom like flowers upon hearing favorites from their past.
Music and Memories is a program that takes music into assisted living and nursing homes to provide immense benefit to patients. (www.musicandmemory.org).
Harken Back to Your Carefree Days
Similarly, if listening to love songs sung by the Bee Gees or Beatles is imprinted in your mind and correlated to youthful, happy times, you will actually FEEL like you did back in that day.
Kick up the jams and watch your libido do a little happy dance.
Harmonize Your Hormones
Sometimes a lack of sex drive or less than stellar satisfaction sexually can be traced back to crappy hormone levels.
When you were 16 your hormones were in a fun and frisky frenzy. You didn’t have to THINK about sex, you ere obsessed with it. That same interest can be rekindled if you find an accomplished anti-aging doc or internist who can do blood tests to ascertain your current hormone levels and then balance them with bio-identical solutions.
If your hormones are out of balance no naked Sofia Vergara (for men) or swim trunk–clad Brad Pitt or George Clooney (for women) is gonna get your motor going.
Sex Supporting Supplements
There are herbal remedies that have been used for THOUSANDS of years to successfully support female sexual health.
Secret 2 – Natural Stress Relief Herb
Dong Quai, for example is used for female hormonal support and to ease anxiety.
WebMD tells us, “Some men apply dong quai to the skin of the penis as part of a multi-ingredient preparation for treating premature ejaculation.
Like Dong Quai, there are many other herbal solutions that s aid in CALMING down anxiety and stress.
Secret 3 – The Calming Herb
You won’t want to have a fun roll in the hay if you’ve had a hellish day. Further, if depression is claiming you as one of its many victims, sex may well be the last thing on your mind. St. John’s Wort to the rescue!As WebMd explains, “There is some scientific evidence that St. John’s Wort may be helpful in treating mild depression.”
There’s no substitute for a proper diagnosis for anxiety or depression or an appropriate prescription for medication, but many find relief by paying a visit to a holistic expert who specializes in herbal recommendations.
Since most of the herbs are fairly benign and tried and true you might even want to buy a bottle of a known herbal remedy at your local vitamin store and give it a try.
Pop some healthy, non-prescription pills and watch your interest in your significant other SWELL.
Secrets 4 and 5 – Meditate and MasturbateYou heard me.
Let’s start with the mental part of things: meditation.
Meditation has so many benefits- all proven by hard science- that’s it’s ridiculous not to create a regular practice just because.
For sexual enhancement and increased libido, however the benefits of ratcheting DOWN your nervous system, finding solace and quiet in the middle of any day, anywhere are astronomical.
By quieting your mind, going within, shutting out the world and its distractions, you position yourself to become a more sexual animal. Plus, who knows, while meditating, though you want to quiet your mind, you may very well come upon a whole new position that you want to try with your partner.
A quiet mind is a creative mind. Hmmm… how can you put that to use?
Now for that other thing. Masturbation is a great way to:
- Discover something new that really works for you
- Keep the machinery in shape and functioning
- Maintain sexual health and hence, balance and anti-aging benefits. Men who orgasm regularly enjoy better prostate health as they age and women retain hormonal health that leads to glowing skin and youthful mental health. There’s a reason why old maids are often referred to as “dried-up old prunes.” Stay active and stay juicy.
“Se-cret 5? Fant-a-size!”
Fantasize = Actualize
Staying interested in regular sex can often be as simple as re-activating your fantasies. If you put a conscious effort into THINKING about what you’d like to do next and with whom and here and why and all that good stuff, you stimulate your libido and keep it in good operating condition.
Like all other matters in life where VISUALIZING leads to ACTUALIZING, maintaining an active imagination and fantasy life can make the difference between being able to TURN IT ON when called for or being very SLOW TO BURN.
Just like a runner who has practiced time and again how to get out of the starting blocks FAST, by keeping an active sexual imagination you can activate more quickly when the time comes to rev up your engines.
Secret 6 – Don’t Forget the Fundamentals
I don’t want to ignore basics like healthy diet, proper sleep, picking the right partner, or prioritizing private sexy time.
These are all the building blocks to mind-blowing sex. But for that added oomph where it has been lacking, try my Sexy Six for Sex and watch the sizzle happen!by